Countless books and songs are written about it and hundreds of online dating websites and relationship seminars abound - all of which are designed to "help" you find that special someone to love. Could it be that the picture of love we see in today's culture is nothing more than an illusion? In this series, you'll discover God's way for finding love, staying in love, and growing in intimacy for a lifetime. It's romanticized on TV and in the movies we watch.

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Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?

If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.

How do you love someone without idolizing the relationship?

I have a tendency to idolize my past relationships, and I’m so afraid of messing up again this time.

If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later. You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security?

If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives. If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. Physical touch should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal need. Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits. 7) Is there too much physical and too little other? It makes me almost want to not be with anyone because I know my heart will always default to idolatry.How do other people function and enjoy God’s blessings without turning them into idols?I know I should operate out of love, not fear, but fear is driving my decisions now.