Getting back to dating after divorce
I graduated last June and have recently moved back home nearby my family because I, unfortunately, have been unable to find employment and have needed to rely on my family for support.Last week I turned 40 and these past few weeks have been incredibly difficult because of that.I feel like I am wasting my time but also that I don't have many options to get out there and meet new people.
With all that is going on I don't really feel that I have much to offer and yet I am so lonely and would really appreciate some company. Out there, the dating market, seems like a really really scary place right now. You've got three children who you love and whose lives you've successfully kept together through a difficult time.
You did a hard thing in going back to finish your degree in your thirties, which many people don't have the courage or financing or time to do.
And you had the humility to know that you need and then asked for help for your sake and that of your children, and a family that is willing and able to provide the help that you need.
But, by your own words—"I don't really feel that I have much to offer"—you don't really see that.
As you describe yourself, you're a 40-year-old unemployed single parent of three with some health problems.
And not to get into advice column clichés (too late!), what you can't see in yourself, you will be hard to present to someone else. Opinionated, in which readers have questions about the pesky day-to-day choices we all face, and I give advice about how to make ones that (hopefully) best reflect our shared commitment to feminist values—as well as advice on what to do when they don't. Opinionated, I am recently divorced, though I have been on my own (with my children) for three very long difficult years.The divorce was incredibly difficult, in part because my ex entered into a new relationship right after we separated.Just before we chose to separate, I had decided to go back to school and get a decent education, so the pressure I was under was enormous.I felt fine about standing on my own two feet and concentrating on completing my studies, finalizing my divorce and not worrying about any entanglements.