OP, why not try your luck on a "normal" dating site and include your preference in your profile? I meant to add that hooking up with younger guys is a whole 'nother story.

I am 45, not quite elder-gay but definitely middle-aged (in the truest sense, since I expect to live to be 90, at least). I am most definitely not looking to be a sugar daddy or any kind of daddy for that matter. Are there any dating websites geared toward this demographic, preferably one that isn't promoting a fetish, like silver daddy or bears, etc.?

[quote]I am most definitely not looking to be a sugar daddy or any kind of daddy for that matter.[quote]...preferably one that isn't promoting a fetish, like silver daddy or bears, etc.?

What exactly is it then, OP, that would interest any of us in one of you?

I can't imagine how a site geared toward the old/young combo would attract anyone other than pervs and golddiggers.

We worked together so I certainly wasn't giving him money--we made about the same.

Though there weren't that many years difference between us, it sort of bothered me.

Maybe because he was sort of immature which made me feel even older.

I've always been one to seek out men for relationships who have been on earth about as long as I have, because that's where the most comfort and commonality can occur with a stranger. I don't know if it's because I didn't have a relationship in my 20s or because the younger guys have the look that attracts me -- not many guys in their 40s can pull off the hipster look and not appear ridiculous. I then realized that dating as a 50-year-old was going to be a lot more difficult than when I was 30 for a variety of reasons, including (a) there just aren’t as many guys in my age group; and (b) a lot of them are already partnered. OP, I'm 49, I have no particular interest in guys in their 20s or even their 30s for the most part, but I'm on Scruff and I'm constantly getting messages, woofs, etc., from guys in their 20s - much more than any other age bracket. If you plan to visit the daddy sites that are recommended here, you'd better beef up your bank account.

I also noticed that many – [bold]not all,[/bold] but many – of the ones who are available:(1) only want to date guys who are in their 20s and early 30s;(2) have never been in a long-term relationship; if you are in your 50s, and you have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few dates or a few months, that could be a real problem;(3) just gave up on themselves, i.e., decided that they no longer had to take care of how they look (as in they don’t go near a gym and make exceptionally poor eating choices), and complain about their “ailments” as if they are 85 and in a nursing home;(4) are either just plain weird or have a harsh, bitter, jaded edge that is really unpleasant to be around. As I said, slim, but not nonexistent, so, hope springs eternal. It's a little annoying to me, but anyway it happens so you might as well try. Because younger guys looking for older men are looking for someone to take care of them. It's so boring when people generalise about everyone else.