Black women dating outside race
The writer, mom and Harvard-educated lawyer says that she is just offering a reasonable solution to the shortage of available black men. Others include Black Female Interracial and Dateawhiteguy. About 73 percent of black/white marriages are between black men and white women, according to the survey.“There are some women who believe that racial loyalty should have precedence over self-preservation,” Vazquez says. The decision to marry a white man sometimes brings strife.
Single black women with college degrees outnumber single black men with college degrees almost 3 to 1 in major urban areas such as Washington, according to a 2008 population survey by the U. It’s Econ 101 for the single, educated black woman.
Waiting for a “good” black man, with the same education level to marry them. Even when they know the odds are stacked against them. Given those numbers, any economist would advise them to start looking elsewhere.
Henson in his recent movie, “I Can Do Bad All by Myself”; in “The Princess and the Frog” featuring Disney’s first black princess, the prince’s indeterminate racial origins inspired commentary; and there was the 2006 movie “Something New,” in which characters played by Simon Baker, who is white, and Sanaa Lathan, who is black, fall in love.
Whoopi Goldberg has talked about interracial dating on “The View,” saying you date whom you are around.
Oprah Winfrey has encouraged black women to explore “what is out there.” While the discussion includes men of all races and ethnicities, the focus is primarily on overcoming taboos against dating white men. Get over those old images of slavery and stop blaming every white man for sins perpetrated by others.
By promoting interracial love for some black women, Folan explains that she is not suggesting that there aren’t any good, single black men out there, or that every educated single black woman will not find an educated black mate. “In short,” Folan says, “some black women choose to demonize all white men rather than look objectively at the facts of our modern times, which are these: Some men, whatever their race, are bad for us. Some men, whatever their race, are good for us.” Lisa Vazquez agrees emphatically. Too many of us claim that we are God’s women, but our mentality reveals that we place racial validation above any and everything.” There’s evidence, both empirical and anecdotal, that an increasing number of black women are playing the entire field.
She is not bashing all black men or implying that all black women are aiming for the altar. “Divestment is an imperative of our self-preservation as black women,” says Vazquez, who writes at blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com, one of many blogs opining on the subject. According to the 2008 population survey, interracial marriages have doubled in the past decade.
So many black women are single, she says, because they are stuck in the groove of a one-track song: sitting alone, waiting for that one “good” black man to come along and sweep them off their feet. Tyler Perry cast a Latin man as the great love interest of black actress Taraji P.
In encouraging black women to date and marry interracially, the book has joined a broadening debate in recent years fueled by the blogosphere, the entertainment industry and comments by prominent African Americans.
And in this case, we are the commodity and the new market is men of other races.” Folan is the author of “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions That Keep Black Women From Dating Out,” published this month by Karen Hunter, an imprint of Pocket Books.
“The solution is to find a new market for your commodity.